Families may live with domestic abuse for a significant period before getting effective help.
On average high-risk victims live with domestic abuse for 2.3 years and medium risk victims for 3 years before getting help.1SafeLives. (2022). Insights Outreach dataset 2021-2022. SafeLives: Bristol.
There are many reasons why families live with domestic abuse for a significant period of time, or return to their abuser after attempting to leave. It may not be apparent to the victim that a relationship is abusive. They may be afraid of the abuser, and fear the consequences for themselves or others if they disclose the abuse. The victim may not know where to turn for help.
Julie*I didn’t know that there was any help out there and I was too ashamed to let people know. I went to hospital a few times, but he always accompanied me and I’d had to lie about my injuries. I wanted the nurses to cotton on and to help me, but no one noticed what I was going through.