How long do people live with domestic abuse?

When do victims get help? How many crimes are reported to police? What are the conviction rates?

Families may live with domestic abuse for a significant period before getting effective help.

On average high-risk victims live with domestic abuse for 2.3 years and medium risk victims for 3 years before getting help.1SafeLives. (2022). Insights Outreach dataset 2021-2022. SafeLives: Bristol.

There are many reasons why families live with domestic abuse for a significant period of time, or return to their abuser after attempting to leave. It may not be apparent to the victim that a relationship is abusive. They may be afraid of the abuser, and fear the consequences for themselves or others if they disclose the abuse. The victim may not know where to turn for help.

I didn’t know that there was any help out there and I was too ashamed to let people know. I went to hospital a few times, but he always accompanied me and I’d had to lie about my injuries. I wanted the nurses to cotton on and to help me, but no one noticed what I was going through.

Julie*

Getting help for domestic abuse

  • 85% of victims sought help on average five times from professionals in the year before they got effective help to stop the abuse. 1SafeLives. (2023). Insights Dataset 2023, SafeLives: Bristol.
  • On average victims experience 50 incidents of abuse before getting effective help. 2FearFree. (2023). Our Vision and Values.
  • Each year there are over 1 million calls to police in England and Wales about domestic abuse, and on average someone contacts the police every 30 seconds for help with domestic abuse. 3HMIC (2014), Everyone’s Business: Improving the police response to domestic abuse. London: HMIC.
  • 78% of high-risk victims report the abuse to the police in the year before they get effective help, on average 2.8 times each. 4SafeLives. (2023). Insights Dataset 2023, SafeLives: Bristol.
  • 68% of high-risk victims try to leave in the year before getting effective help, on average 2 or 3 times each. 5SafeLives. (2023). Insights Dataset 2023, SafeLives: Bristol.
  • 23% of high-risk victims attend A&E as a result of their injuries in the year before getting effective help, many multiple times. 6SafeLives. (2023). Insights Dataset 2023, SafeLives: Bristol.
  • A third (34%) of children in high-risk domestic abuse households are not known to children’s social care. 7SafeLives. (2022). Children’s Insights dataset 2021-2022. SafeLives: Bristol.
  • At least 80% of children in domestic abuse households are known to at least one public agency 8Caada (2014), In Plain Sight: Effective help for children exposed to domestic abuse: 2nd national policy report. Bristol: Caada.

Domestic abuse crimes and convictions

  • There are 890,000 crimes reported each year related to domestic abuse in England and Wales.9Crime Survey England and Wales. (2022). Domestic abuse prevalence and trends, England and Wales.
  • There are 33,000 domestic abuse-related sexual offences, 680,000 violence against person offences were flagged as domestic abuse related10SafeLives. (2022). Insights Outreach dataset 2021-2022. SafeLives: Bristol. and 28,000 domestic abuse-related harassment and stalking crimes were charged by the Crown Prosecution Service. 11Crown Prosecution Service (2019). Domestic Abuse-flagged harassment and stalking offences charged and reaching a first hearing in magistrates’ courts 2010-2019. CPS: London.
  • In 2020, domestic abuse-related crime forms 15% of total crime, and 16% of all sexual offences, 35% of all violence against person crimes, and 40% of all recorded harassment crimes in England and Wales. 12Crown Prosecution Service (2019). Domestic Abuse-flagged harassment and stalking offences charged and reaching a first hearing in magistrates’ courts 2010-2019. CPS: London.
  • In 2022-2023, there were more than 51,000 prosecutions for domestic abuse offences. The conviction rate for domestic violence offences in England and Wales was 76%.13Crime Survey England and Wales. (2022). Domestic abuse prevalence and trends, England and Wales.
  • 64% of all harassment and stalking prosecutions and 77% of all restraining order breaches in England and Wales in 2013-14 were domestic violence related. 14Crown Prosecution Service (2019). Domestic Abuse-flagged harassment and stalking offences charged and reaching a first hearing in magistrates’ courts 2010-2019. CPS: London.
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